Being The Best Possible You
If happiness is something that is supposed to be created from within a person, why then is it so difficult to be happy with ourselves? Often, the troubles with self happiness are the lower levels of self esteem that are housed within the mind. Our self concept is tainted and distorted to the point that we consistently assess ourselves and find faults in everything we do. Over a length of time, that tainted image becomes a reality to us.
At other times discontentment can be a result of fear of failure or even fear of success. People tend to resist change for fear of the unknown, even if they are unhappy in their current condition. Often times a person will stay in a dead-end job or relationship simply because it is familiar rather than venture into the unknown. While the concept may seem ridiculous when you read it on paper, it is the mentality that many humans share. However, those who hold on to this thought rarely find happiness. Their own thought process becomes crippling and limits their potential in life.
Self-doubt and a fear to take risks may be all that stand between you and a happy, fulfilling life. Examine your thoughts and beliefs to find out what steps you need to take towards becoming a better you. There are several factors that comprise our entire self image and self esteem. By being honest with yourself about how you feel about yourself, you can acknowledge and confront the issues that must be addressed in order to promote a healthy self image.
Self improvement can encompass your physical, emotional, and mental being. What area or areas do you want to improve and why do you want to improve those areas? The latter may seem like a silly question but it is important. For example, if you want to lose weight because you want to look like your favorite movie star, then you may find trouble reaching your goal as it may not be realistic and it may not provide enough motivation. However, if you want to lose a few pounds to reach a healthy weight because your doctor says you are at risk for heart disease; then that, coupled with the smile of your precious child whom would be lost without you, may be enough motivation to loose the pounds and run a marathon when you reach your goal weight!
Physical self improvement is usually easy to identify but difficult to achieve. While some self-improvement requires you to undergo a physical transformation (like loosing or gaining weight), other require you to simply accept the body you have-and often that is the more difficult task. When we condition ourselves to believe in a set standard of beauty for which we ourselves do not fit, it makes self-acceptance a trying task. However, it is a necessary task in order to achieve happiness.
Working on the emotional side of life is a bit harder than the physical changes. Our lives have a tendency to leave scars on our psyche and those scars are the reason Psychiatrists and Psychologists have the jobs they do today. Practicing calming techniques and methods can improve the emotional hold we have on our lives and thus improve our chances of happiness.
Mental change works hand in hand with emotional and requires time spent on lowering levels of stress and improving how we judge ourselves and our successes. Our minds how great strength in our lives and without a balanced mental state, the happiness we desire is something that will tantalize us constantly.
A happy mind, soul, heart and self are all needed for overall life happiness. Improving oneself for the better can lead to an improved love of the world around us. It is believed that once the unsuccessful person stops trying to be successful, success knocks on the door.
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About The Author: Elliott Roberts writes for Becomng, a Self Improvement blog, covering topics ranging from How To Become Wealthy to Goal Setting, and more. Visit Becomng, and change your life forever!