Infidelity and Money
Entering marriage without discussing financial expectations can lead to a rocky road for a new couple.
Balancing marriage and financial issues can be daunting. Should she be allowed to spend $100 on a new handbag without discussing it with her husband first? Should he be allowed to buy sporting tickets to go to a game with his friends without discussing it with his wife first?
If one or both partners is used to spending freely, having to discuss purchases with his or her spouse once they get married, can feel restrictive and unfair. There are many decisions to make when joining into a marriage: should you keep your separate bank accounts or open only joint accounts? Some couples allow themselves a certain amount of discretionary spending, for instance: spending over $200 should be discussed.
Whether or not a couple has a duel-income or has just one working spouse can further complicate the scenario. When one partner is staying home to raise children, he or she should have some discretionary money to spend freely in order to feel independent. Deciding on the amount is up to the couple.
Financial infidelity can show up in many ways. One partner might purchase an item and hide it in the back of their closet so the spouse never notices it. Another might go to the grocery store, get cash back, and then pocket the change.
One particularly heinous example of financial infidelity is having a secret bank account, which many agree might be grounds for divorce. Another might be having a secret credit card.
Confessing spending or financial secrets can be liberating. Using an anonymous online website for revealing secrets and confessions can be a good first start. Getting to the bottom of why you are keeping the secret is a critical step in coming clean.
Keeping secrets is risky business in more ways than one. It can ruin your marriage, but it can also ruin your health. Confessing anonymously online is a great way to start the process of telling the truth without fear. Once the ball is rolling, confessing to your spouse could be the next step.
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